And quietly... you're terrified this won't be the last. But you're determined to do everything in your power to make sure that it is. And you know that starts with you.
This isn't for the woman who wants to rush straight from her trauma bond into her next relationship ASAP, to avoid the discomfort of facing herself. It's for the woman who's done that before... and finally realises that's a big reason why she keeps ending up in the same type of toxic relationship over and over again. But you're not running away this time. You're facing it head on.
No matter how many times you tell yourself, put it in the girls chat, or declare it to the universe that you want a "good guy" and a "healthy relationship"... you STILL get sucked into this same cycle every time.
Underneath your determined, high-achieving, independent, "I don't need no man" exterior, you deeply just want to be loved and chosen — the way you've dreamt of since you were a little girl, the way you've seen in movies, the way you've watched so many of your friends find.
It always starts the same way... You get swept off your feet by the guy who seems perfect. The chemistry is intense and the sparks are flying. He's attentive, charming, good looking, gives you compliments, texts you "good morning, beautiful" and "good night, wish I was cuddled up next to you." Your feelings develop fast, you start spending lots of time together, and you think maybe this time you've got it right.
But then after a few months... his mask starts to slip. Red flags start to appear, his true colours start to show. But by this point, you're already attached. Already in love. So you do what you've always done — you minimise it, explain it away, and you stay.
Hot then cold. Connection then withdrawal. Peace then arguments. Love-bombing then insults. The roller coaster doesn't stop, it just gets faster. And your nervous system starts mistaking the chaos for chemistry.
You hold onto the version of him you first met, wondering where the hell he's gone. Because the man in front of you now is avoidant, emotionally immature, dismissive, defensive, gaslighting, and toxic. But you still see flashes of his "potential," of the "him" you fell for — so you stay.
You're riddled with anxiety when you're with him, but also terrified to be without him. You start making excuses for his behaviour — blaming his past trauma, his childhood, his mummy issues. You try to help him; you send him a podcast, you suggest therapy. Telling yourself that if you can just convince him to heal, you'll get back the magic from the start. But in the process you become a shell of yourself — dull, small, emotionally fragile. Your whole life and mental energy revolves around the relationship. You tiptoe on eggshells. You stop bringing up your thoughts, feelings, needs — because every conversation ends in a fight, and every fight makes you more terrified of the end.
And then it finally ends. Maybe you found the strength to leave. Maybe he destroyed your trust and cheated. Maybe he ripped the bandaid off for you. But either way, you're plummeted into heart-shattering, trauma bond withdrawals.
It physically hurts how heartbroken you are. You crave him. You can't stop thinking about him. You feel like you're going crazy. You wonder if you'll ever feel free, peaceful, or happy again.
The pain of the heartbreak, the rejection, the abandonment, the loneliness becomes too much. So you do what you've always done... you either go back to him and convince him to try again, OR you download the apps, rush back into dating, and find someone new.
Only for the whole cycle to repeat itself in a few months. Same dynamic. Different costume.
The countless women in my world who have broken free from their toxic relationship cycle and met the loves of their lives aren't the ones who got back on the apps ASAP, watched every "red flag" TikTok, or followed every dating guru on Instagram.
They're the ones who instead went back to the root cause — and healed the OG wounds their nervous system has been unconsciously trying to recreate and repair their whole lives.
And this is the entire purpose of The Secure Woman Era Mastermind...
A 6-month semi-private coaching mastermind that breaks your toxic relationship cycle for good and transforms you into a secure woman by healing your past trauma, rewriting your relationship blueprint, and reprogramming your nervous system for healthy, calm, consistent love to become your new normal.
❌ This is NOT where you just talk about your trauma and healing.
✅ This is where you actually DO it — in your body, in your life, with expert support and like-minded women who are doing it with you.
Straight from my client DMs and group chats. The wins, the breakthroughs, the "holy sh*t Kendall" moments from women who have done the inner healing work that actually works.
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The signature 3-pillar framework I've used with 100+ women to break their toxic relationship cycle for good — now structured into the 6-month journey we'll take together inside the mastermind.
The man you keep choosing isn't the problem — he's the symptom. We go all the way back to what originally programmed your relationship blueprint: the parent wounds, the inner child wounds, the attachment trauma, the coping mechanisms you've developed in response to your past trauma, the somatic patterns your nervous system is unconsciously repeating because they feel "familiar."
We use my signature trauma healing modalities — somatic shadow work, emotional processing, breathwork, energetic release, subconscious reprogramming — to dissolve the wound at the body level. Not just understand it. Release it.
You learn to stop outsourcing your safety, worth, joy, regulation, fulfillment, and validation to men, dating and relationships, and become it for yourself instead. You learn to self-soothe, self-resource, fill your own cup, regulate your own nervous system. So that a secure partner becomes an addition to your life, not the entire point of it.
Because the truth is: a secure partner can't fix anxious attachment for you. He can only meet you where you've already met yourself. This is the work that makes secure love actually possible.
We don't stay stuck in the past, we reflect in order to learn from it and do differently moving forward. What was unhealed within you that led you to settle for that toxic relationship and treatment? Where did you abandon yourself in order to avoid being abandoned by someone else? Where did you let your insecurities be preyed on? Where did your people-pleasing, your wanting to be chosen, your chameleoning, your blinders to red flags, your lack of boundaries actually play out?
Now it's time to do it differently. This is where you learn how to date as a secure woman, choose differently, show up authentically and unapologetically, and actually call in your dream secure partner who is emotionally available, kind, genuine and ready for a committed relationship, with my support every step of the way as you head back out into the dating world. This is the answer to your deepest fear of "but what if I just get it wrong again?" This time you won't, because you're doing it differently than you ever have before: you're dating as a SECURE WOMAN.
"I'm healed. I'm out of that terrible place, and I wouldn't have been able to get to that place without Kendall."
— Chloe, 31, AUS
From being trapped in "the most abusive, manipulative relationship I've ever been in, in my entire life" to becoming a secure woman, dating a secure man, and finally feeling like herself again.
Not a group call. Not straight in the deep end with a bunch of strangers. But in a private, safe space — just you and me.
Most group programs throw you into a shared container on day one and hope the Q&A format fills in the blanks. The Secure Woman Era does the opposite.
Your first 6 weeks are spent with me building the foundations of becoming a secure woman that you'll use throughout this container — and for the rest of your life.
Somatic self-resourcing tools. Reconnecting to your body. Clearing the trauma currently blocking you — trauma bond with your ex, inner child wounds, daddy issues, past toxic or abusive relationship trauma — using my specialised somatic, emotional processing and energetic clearing modalities.
Deep-dive coaching sessions where we go all the way in — uncovering, processing, and clearing what's been blocking you. The kind of work that simply isn't possible in a group setting.
Direct DM and voice note support with me, 4 days a week. Coaching, guidance, accountability and held space even between our calls. (You don't get that in therapy.)
The step-by-step roadmap to uncovering and beginning to heal the root causes fuelling your toxic relationship cycle — yours from day one.
Most group masterminds charge separately for private coaching calls and support. Inside The Secure Woman Era, your private 1:1 first 6 weeks are the entry point — not an upsell.
By the time the group rhythm kicks off, you're already in motion: your foundations are laid, your goals are set, you've started clearing the trauma blocking you, and you're showing up to your first group call as a woman who's already moving — not still in the spiral.
★ This is the difference between a course and a live container ★
Private Intensive Value: $1,800 USD
Included in The Secure Woman Era — at no extra cost.
These are not your typical "talk therapy" chit-chat calls like most other group programs. Nor are they just a stack of masterclasses you could watch in your own time. This is past healing, present-day expansion, and future-focused growth — combined.
An interactive, themed workshop combined with a live specially created somatic, emotional processing and energetic trauma healing modality. This is where you DO your actual healing. Live with me, holding you in the safest of spaces, not you left to figure it out on your own.
Your turn in the chair. Real-time coaching on whatever's coming up for you that week. And getting to be a fly on the wall for the other women's coaching is just as transformative as being in the seat yourself.
Me guiding you live through a specially curated somatic emotional release journey, the body-level work that creates the biggest shifts. You don't heal trauma by talking about it, you heal it by moving through it and releasing it with somatics.
The space to anchor everything in. Hot seat coaching combined with integration, where insights become embodied, and embodiment becomes your new normal.
She came to me trauma bonded to her avoidant ex — almost convinced she'd never meet "her person." Here's where she is now.
32, AUS
From trauma bonded to her avoidant ex → moving in with her dream partner.
Trauma bonded to her avoidant ex after a 5-year anxious-avoidant relationship ended. Terrified she'd never move on or meet her person. She almost gave up on her dream of having a family of her own.
Recently moved in with her new dream partner. Has a beautiful bond with his daughter. They've had exciting conversations about having their own kids together — and he's even asked her what kind of engagement ring she'd like.
Not a fantasy. Not a vision board. The actual woman you're walking out of this work as — across every part of your life, not just the relationship one.
You wake up without that wave of anxiety crashing over your body anymore. Instead, you genuinely look forward to the day ahead, your life feels exciting and full, and you're smashing your goals, doing hobbies that light you up, your social life is thriving with amazing friends. You're fully living your it-girl era!
You walk into rooms differently now, fully, authentically & unapologetically you. You speak your truth, wear what you want, and say no without writing a paragraph to justify it. The woman you've become is someone you actually love spending time with.
Your body finally feels like your safe space. Gone are the days of living in anxiety-ridden, fight-flight survival mode. Now you feel calm, grounded, and genuinely happy. And when life throws you a curveball, you don't spiral, txt 5 friends, or reach for a man, you self-soothe, self-resource, feel, and move through it. You wholeheartedly trust you can hold yourself through anything.
Dating is actually fun and enjoyable now you're dating as a Secure Woman using my Empowered Dating Method. You're a magnet for high-quality, secure men who are ready for a committed relationship, and you can spot the toxic, avoidant, narcs a mile away. You date from a place of authenticity, high standards, and never settling for less than you know you deserve.
When you meet your person, the relationship feels calm, safe, secure, consistent and exciting in the healthy way, not the chaotic way. He's emotionally mature, he shows up for you fully, and adores you for you. You finally get to experience what it's like to be loved properly, because you've done the work to know you deserve it.
All the energy you used to spend overthinking your relationships, you're now able to pour into your career, business, and bank account. You're dreaming bigger, setting big goals, making bold moves, and earning more money. It's free to actually focus on creating the life you've always wanted.
You no longer outsource your security, safety, worth, happiness, or purpose to men or relationships.
You ARE a Secure Woman.
You've built a 10/10 fulfilling, fun, exciting, peaceful life you love, and you'd rather be single than settle for anything less than someone who matches that.
The secure, emotionally available man you've been waiting for? You're a magnet for him now.
I was in back-to-back toxic relationships with avoidant, emotionally abusive, narcissists for nearly 10 years...
Until 4 years ago: I got cheated on (again) which was the kick up the ass I needed to finally leave the toxic relationship my trauma bond had kept me stuck in for 4.5 years.
But leaving was only the first step... Making sure I didn't end up back here again was where the real work happened.
Since my teens I'd felt broken, unworthy, "too much" and unlovable. I spent my late teens and early 20s numbing the pain with alcohol, partying, disordered eating, and looking for love and validation in all the wrong places.
I had been in and out of talk therapy since I was 16 and even tried anti-depressant medication, but it didn't change anything long term. I'd always find myself back at a new rock bottom. Until I made the bravest decision of my life: I hired a coach & tried somatic trauma healing.
Through DOING deep somatic shadow work, emotional processing, self-devotion, and actually healing the trauma stored in my body (not just intellectualising it), I broke free. I turned my breakup into my biggest ever breakthrough.
THEN 6 months later, I met my now-partner. A kind, emotionally available, secure man who's shown me that healthy love does exist, and we've been together for 3+ years.
Now I help women just like you to break your toxic relationship cycle for good, heal your anxious attachment, and become a secure woman who's a magnet for the secure love you've always dreamed of.
I'd be doing you a disservice if I didn't tell you the truth about what happens to the woman who tries to skip this part.
If you don't heal the root cause of why you keep choosing the wrong men, you'll choose another wrong one. Or you'll sabotage the right one when he finally shows up.
Or you can decide right now that you're DONE going around in circles.
You're done with the talk therapy that's leading nowhere. Done with the self-help spiral. Done with another year of "knowing" and still not changing. Done bombarding yourself with toxic relationship podcasts, Reels & TikToks. Done waiting for it to magically fix itself. Done with the same relationship patterns.
This is your way out. And I'll walk you through it.
I'm Ready →Two tiers. Both deeply held. Both 6 months of close-proximity support, somatic healing, accountability and real transformation. Choose the one your nervous system can actually exhale into.
45-min call. No pressure. Just a face to face chat to see if we're the right fit.
Pulled straight from my DMs and group chats. The wins, the breakdowns, the breakthroughs, the "holy sh*t Kendall" moments.
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Yes — every single weekly call is live with me. Here's how it works: once the group chat opens, I post a poll with a range of possible call times and everyone votes. We either go with the most popular time, or alternate between two top options week to week to keep it fair.
My priority is always making sure as many of you as possible can attend live. Occasionally a call might land at a slightly less convenient time — and honestly? Part of the commitment you're making to yourself is showing up for yourself even when it isn't convenient.
If you genuinely can't make a call live, the recording will be in the portal within 48 hours.
I hear you, and that nervous feeling is so normal, especially if you've spent years in toxic relationships where it wasn't safe to be vulnerable. But here's the thing about The Secure Woman Era: it's a tiny, intentional container of likeminded women who are all walking the same path as you. They are not strangers, they're your soul sisters in this journey.
There is no judgement here for being vulnerable, for crying, for sharing the messy parts you've never told anyone, or for not having it all figured out. The women in this space hold each other so safely, and you'll quickly realise that healing alongside women who GET IT is one of the most powerful parts of the entire experience. So many of my clients come in nervous about the group element, and within the first month it becomes the thing they value most.
And you never have to share before you're ready. You can absorb, witness, and be held in the energy of the work for as long as you need before you speak. I create the container so carefully that by the time you do open up, it feels safer than you ever imagined possible.
Yes, absolutely. I've had women join my programs from all over the world and it's never been a problem.
I do my absolute best with call times so everyone can attend as many live calls as possible, and I'm in our private group chat pretty much every day — so you'll always have my support no matter where in the world you are.
Talk therapy is brilliant for building awareness and understanding — but it doesn't heal the trauma stuck in your body. What often happens in talk therapy is you end up going around-and-around the same stories from your past with no real resolution.
To actually heal trauma, you need to get into the body where painful past experiences are stored. Because trauma isn't what happened to you (that's the logical/narrative memory)... trauma is how your body responded to what happened to you.
This is exactly why certain situations trigger intense reactions in you. It's the past somatic response, still held in your body, getting activated.
Through the trauma healing modalities you'll experience inside The Secure Woman Era, you'll safely strip back the layers of your trauma — freeing yourself from the weight of your past, massively reducing triggers, and finally believing and behaving differently in a way that's more positive, more authentic, and unmistakably you.
I've had clients spend years in therapy trying to get over their trauma, then heal and move on from it in just 2 sessions with me.
My approach combines somatics, emotional processing, energetics, breathwork, subconscious reprogramming and hypnosis.
These are all widely researched, deeply effective techniques — every single one I've either trained in formally and/or experienced first-hand from expert coaches and healers. My blend of spirituality, holistics and psychology is the foundation of my coaching, and it's why I get the results I do with my clients.
For each topic or wound we focus on inside the mastermind, I have a specific trauma healing modality that I use with my 1:1 clients — and they consistently produce remarkable results.
Your first payment (the deposit) secures your spot — once that's in, you're in the program.
The following month, on the same date, your card is automatically charged the same amount. (Don't worry — I don't have access to your card details. Everything is encrypted via Stripe.)
If a payment declines for any reason, you have 48 hours before it automatically recharges. If it fails again, you'll be locked out of the program and lose your space.
Due to the instant-access digital nature of the bonuses and program materials, all sales are final. By signing up, you're committing to yourself and to the work. Please make sure you're ready before you enrol — that's exactly what the free Vibe Check call is for.
Book the free Vibe Check call. That's literally what it's for. Thirty minutes, zero pressure, just you and me chatting about where you're at, where you want to go, and whether The Secure Woman Era is the right container for you right now.
The free Vibe Check call is where we chat about whether The Secure Woman Era is the right fit for you, how I can support you to heal and get the best possible results, and where you get a little taste of what it's like to have me as your coach.
Book Your Free Vibe Check →★ Early Bird offer ends 14th June ★